Signs of infedility

Infidelity or unfaithfulness is one of the reasons why couples break up. One partner is tempted and plays with fire. One thing leads to another, and a stable relationship is ruined!

Even if you don't see with your eyes that your partner is cheating on you, there are changes in his behavior that logically merit suspicion and may scream fidelity.

• He becomes secretive. If your significant other doesn't ask permission when going out, doesn't inform you of his whereabouts, hides his mobile phone, doesn't answer his mobile phone around you, behaves in an eerie manner when talking to someone on the phone, and suddenly becomes reticent about what's happening in his life, then he be definitely hiding something from you.
  

• He suddenly changes his routine. Does he constantly leave too early in the morning or come home in the wee hours of the morning? Have you noticed him going to the gym more often? Although changes in routine is inevitable in a person's life, but you should know how to distinguish from the truth and the lie.
  

• His personality has changed. If your partner shows changes in his personality or behavior like sudden mood swings, or becoming nonchalant, apathetic even if he is not inflicted with bipolar disorder, there may be a reason he is acting strange. Another way to tell if your significant other is cheating is when he criticizes you more. He finds faults with your behavior to justify his cheating. This way, he can reason that you push him away from you. The exact opposite is being extremely nice, generous, and amorous because he wants to make up of his transgressions.

• He lacks intimacy. Having intimacy is not tantamount to having sex. You can show your emotional and physical intimacy to a person by touching, cuddling, holding hands, kissing or just talking lovingly and wholeheartedly. His lack of affection towards you may be a sign he might be seeing someone else.

• He cheated on his ex-girlfriends. Find time to talk to his old girlfriends discreetly. It may save you a lot of heartaches. If he has the audacity to cheat on his past girlfriends, then, there's a bigger chance for him to do it again. As one psychologist put it, " A person's past behavior will almost always determine his future behavior".

• He keeps buying things. Does he purchase expensive and unnecessary items for unknown people? Are his telephone bills higher than usual? Is he visiting unfamiliar places without you?
  

There are really lots of lukewarm relationships out there and statistics continue to go up. If you want not to be a part of that statistics, give time to nurture your relationship. As one writer said "unlike planes, relationships cannot be maintained on auto-pilot".