Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Facts about Woman / Wife


I have read a lot of articles about women. When I was in high school, a classmate wrote an article titled "Women are hard to s-p-e-l-l" and there he wrote his rants regarding women.

When I was a fresh graduate in college, me and my friends would look for ways to vent our boredom and so we would always look a place to go to gimmicks and hang outs. Sometimes, we girls don't like pushing trough our gimmick plans and our guy friends would tell us "You are indeed women" referring to our very changeable minds not sticking to our plans.

A lot of marriages are destroyed today because of the lack of awareness about the basic differences between man and woman and the lack of ability to deal with these differences as they live together in marriage. Here are some facts about woman that a husband should know to better understand his wife...



A wife cherishes her Husband's Expression of Appreciation. Since appreciation enhances one's self-worth, the husband should serve it lavishly. Unfortunately, some men ignore it while others forget it. Just a simple "thanks honey for the delicious meal" will do. Every wife needs expressions of appreciation for what she does and for what she is. She cherishes these "everyday" expressions. In addition to this, the husband should always remember those occasions that afford special opportunities for such reassurance such as birthdays, anniversaries, and other significant dates.

She likes to have a "house-husband". Every housewife needs help. Heavy laundry, dirty dishes, screaming children, day after day cause frustration and boredom. A sensitive husband will take over the household chores periodically, giving the wife her day's vacation. This thoughtful activity sends his wife the signal: I love, I care.

In the olden times, the husband is the sole breadwinner and the wife stays at home taking care the children and doing the household chores. At present time, both the husband and wife are earners to meet the demands of the skyrocketing cost of living. Is it not just fitting that both husband and wife also share the responsibilities inside the house? In addition to a woman's career, she is also a housewife. So in addition to the husband's job, he should also be a "house-husband".

A woman changes moods and feelings. In the morning, she may be smiling, but by midday she may be crying. Why does she experience such mood swings? The bloodstream of a woman carries 20% fewer red blood cells than that of a man. Since red cells are the conveyors of oxygen to all parts of the body, less oxygen capacity tends to impact on a woman's coping mechanism and influence her moods and feelings. Aside from that, the woman experiences premenstrual tensions. The monthly cycle of the female reproductive system produces biological changes. These also impact her body chemistry influencing her emotions and behavior. A wise husband would be understanding and see these changes as opportunities to show to his wife his love and care.

She is a survivor. A woman may be weaker in some aspects, but she is stronger in others. Usually, she has a sharper hearing, brighter night vision, a keener sense of smell and a stronger immune system.Her female hormones are give her greater resistance to heart disease during her childbearing years. In addition, the woman's corpus collosum, which is the connector of the left and right halves of the brain tends to be stronger. This means that in the event of stroke, there is quicker transfer of brain functions from one hemisphere to the other, which in turn facilitates a speeder recovery. On the average, the woman outlives the man by eight years!

She is intuitive. It is well established that left and right hemispheres of the brain have different field function and varied modes of operation. While the left brain processes data lineally, using parts to form a whole, the right brain processes information globally, seeing the whole before recognizing its parts. The left hemisphere solves the problem logically and sequentially while the right solves the problem experimentally. So, while the left lobe uses analysis, the right uses synthesis.

Generally, women are more right- brained than men. consequently, they are more intuitive. This power of intuition enables the wife to arrive at a conclusion spontaneously. When asked what's the reason of her decision, she would simply say "something tells me so". A wise husband will give respect to his wife's ideas despite her lack of data sheets.

A woman is stimulated by feelings of love. Unlike a man, a woman is not stimulated by what she sees , but by what she feels. In order for her to respond effectively, she must feel loved. For her,sex is not only physical but a very emotional experience.

She enjoys varied expressions of love. These expressions may be put into 3 categories. one, the casual like holding hands, two, the intimate such as embrace, three, the ultimate or sexual expression. The man is an excellent mathematician. He moves with rapidity from number 1 toi number 3. Whenever he gets intimate, he is willing to proceed to the ultimate.

Most women are poor mathematicians. They do not always want to count. Sometimes a wife starts but stops at number 1. She is satisfied with the casual expression of love. Other times, she proceeds to number 2 but stops. She is finding fulfillment in the intimate expression of love but desires not to go further. And in other times, she counts on to number 3. She desires sexual expression. Unlike man, at different times, a woman enjoys different expressions of love. Every husband should learn and understand to cope this basic differences. He should understand that his priority is not to please himself.

She needs new eggs in the empty nest. At each stage of a woman's life, she faces new challenges. When the children are grown and gone, the post-menopausal woman faces her "empty nest" with a feeling of emptiness. The objects of her devotion for several years have disappeared and so she desires new eggs in the nest. She doesn't needs new children but a new projects or actvities to enhance fulfillment. She now says no to procreation but yes to procreativity.

The wife needs to hear the Precious words "I love you". Before marriage, those words were uttered often, but after marriage they are seldom spoken. The husband needs to say them over and over again. This affirmation of love is like oil to the engine. It must be changed often but it must be present always.
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Monday, January 25, 2010

Man and woman


Many problems come up between man and woman for the simple reason that man and woman do not understand each other.

The source of misunderstanding between man and woman comes from the basic fact that neither man and woman are only one body. They are body and soul. Man and woman think and feel differently. Here are few examples:

By nature, man is a leader, he goes ahead. By nature, a woman is a follower. A man likes to rule and to be independent. A woman likes to feel that she is needed. A man can work or live faraway from home for many days. A woman's main interests are at home. A man can concentrate full-time on only one job. He is a mechanic, a driver, a teacher. A woman can do many works and can multitask. She can cook, clean the house, raise the children, and nurse the sick all the same in one day, not to mention her having a job to help her man. A man thinks and figure out reasons for doing things. A woman thinks with her heart.

These are only some of the few things that men differ from women. The thing to remember is God created both men and women. They were meant together to work as a team. Men and women are like two blades on a pair of scissors. We cannot say that one blade is more important than the other. They are equally important. One blade cannot cut anything on its own. Both the blades must work together . It is the same with men and women. Both are needed and both are equally important. Just like the two blades in a pair of scissors.

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Saturday, January 16, 2010

Let guys into your world and don't scare them away


There are girls/ women I know who are pretty, talented and yet they seem to scare men away from them. Some of them we labeled NBSB (No Boyfriend Since Birth). Deep inside, they long for somebody to be with, to get to know with someone. How to to let guys into your world and not scare them away? Here we go...

Being an untamed shrew. Any guy or person for that matter would probably not want to go where he is not wanted. The same thing goes for potential love interests. People are curious about the girl who can cut off the knees but once the thrill of the chase is gone, the interest and whatever feelings may be present soon follow suit. At the same time, an icy misdemeanor and a sharp tongue will make a lot of would-be suitors look somewhere else easily.

So, what's the right attitude to take? It really depends on one's personality. The best thing to do is to always remember that you are a lady, and a lady must carry herself with dignity and gentility. An openness to friendship without overly eager can also go a long way in showing that a girl is worthy to be met and pursued.

Asking too many questions. Of course, wanting to know someone is a good thing and asking so many questions is the easiest way to do it. But when it comes to matters of the heart, can there be too much of a good thing? In a word yes, Many guys are by nature, not very talkative and at the same time, there are matters they prefer not to discuss too much. So when girls ask too many questions about things they deem personal, it makes them uncomfortable. Uncomfortable enough, to avoid girls who possess this habit.

So what are you gonna do? There's no easy way to get rid of this tendency but the best thing to do is to be as sensitive as possible. Guys are usually quote transparent when it comes to showing discomfort. So when getting to know a guy, observe how he reacts to different topics. If he starts squirming in his seat, redirect the conversation. He will be thankful for it, and you will be setting more the stage for him to be more open with you in the future.

Acting like a damsel in too much distress. Admittedly, guys like a girl who can make them feel needed. But being helpless to extremes may be an automatic red flag, especially considering how much females value gender equality these days. Relying on guys for everything, from driving to to walking to the dog can make guys feel like they are simply being used and seeing a girl act like this can make guys think twice about even just coming up to say hi.

So, what shall you do? There's really no need to act like a full-on princess just to make men feel needed. Learning to do things on your own gives you a better appreciation of the things around you including the help you received. It also makes you down-to-earth, and thus, approachable. That's something the guy will definitely take notice of.





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Sunday, June 21, 2009

Honeymoon great SEXperience


Now, everyone - almost every newlywed woman and man will tell you that making love on honeymoon night is great. But guess what, not everyone is telling the entire story, the real, ah, score , no pun indeed! That's because newlyweds are expected to enjoy their honeymoon night and so that's what they say - sex was great on their first night together.

But later on, they will tell the truth - usually to their marriage counselor or pastor, or psychiatrist, or the judge when they are already seeking legal separation or divorce that sex right from the start was everything except great. In other words, sex from day one was a disappointment, nothing like, well, you see in the movies. So, are you up for disappointment or you'll really have that one big bang of a great sexperience?

Sex is great and you will have fun-as you should have fun making love with your guy on your wedding night if early on you already have sorted out or tackled together the great expectations each one of you have about sex, making love, and doing it throughout your married life together. These are some hypes you should be clear about...

Virginity. Even in this day of condoms and viagra, not a few men or women get to do the sex act only on their wedding night. Your guy might not even know how to find your vagina in the dark! Or you are the virgin and he goes on his way to the big bang.You're lying there, anxious whether you would bleed to death, or what if you didn't bleed and he'd scream "What? you are not a virgin?" and he'd run and file for divorce, or worse keep the marriage in tact but look for virgins some place else! Tackle the virginity issue head on, before even saying yes when he propose so both of you are clear on your expectations.

Oral sex. Oral sex is sooo good. Even your pastor will say it's okay that married couples do it for foreplay. No kidding. But still, some women won't do it because somebody told them it's a sin, or it's so dirty you'll end up with urinary tract infection which can be so painful and expensive to treat. Ask your ob-gyne. Only your trusted doctor can tell you what's good for your particular health condition. And not all few men will do oral sex. The reasons may be the same with the woman's like religious beliefs, health fears, or there are men who simply don't like the vagina scent. Again tackle the issue in your one-on-one, no-holds-barred discussion with your fiancee. If he won't do oral sex and you can't ever enjoy making love without oral foreplay or its the other way around - you won't ever ever do it. That could spell a hell in bed not only on your wedding night but the rest of you lovemaking nights till death or divorce do you part. And while you are at it, discuss other issues such as foreplay, sex positions, talking dirty, who is going to initiate sex, what's a turn on, what's a turn off, what's a no, what's a go.

Who is the boss? Of course when you're in love , your guy or you would not even look at or love someone else. But somewhere along the way some couples confess it happened on night one - you can fall out of love. You can avoid the tragedy or the divorce mess if early on you lay the groud rules about your relationship. State from day one of courtship that you won't tolerate a two-timing suitor or husband. And maintain your conviction. Exoress it always throughout your courtship, engagement and marriage.

Talk dirty, talk clean. Even in this day of sex and the city, couples don't sit down and talk about sex. That's because they simply don't hink sex is something you really talk about. They just know sex as they read it in sexy or porn mags, or what they see in movies. People just go on doing sex. You either feel good about it or it becomes just one sorry disappointment from one partner to another. Early on the relationship, schedule a one-on-one day talk with yor guy to discuss issues that could affect your relationship- money, career, in-laws, children and yes, sex. The date should be non-negotiable. In other words it's a top priority. If your guy won't talk, girl, you have a problem. A mature guy and serious about you will talk about sex and all its nitty-gritty and all other issues concerning your life together as husband and wife. Forewarned is forearmed.Read about sex, free love, true love. Read real researches and studies, not just the pocketboooks or trashy mags you see in newstands. Know what's true and what's good for you and your mate. That one-on one talk is a test whether your relationship is a go, whether you'll have that sexperience you dream about in your honeymoon and the rest of your married life.

Friday, June 19, 2009

Dating..the rules have changed


Don't wear something sexy, you might get raped. Don't flirt, he might not ask you out again. Don't come on time, he might think you are cheap, easy to get. Dating rules. You've heard about them. You've followed not a few of them. But hey, its now the era of high technology and information overload. The rules have changed, so check these out before you go out on a date!

Dress up, Dress down.What you wear does not really determine whether you'd be a victim of date rape. Rape is rape. Someone who wants to force himself on you will do it. He will do it the moment he gets an oppurtunity to do it - whether you are in a nun's habit or two-piece bikini.

Know yourself, who you are, what you stand for. Then choose the best style of clothing that expresses you. that's your style. Stick to it. Be known and remembered for it. But this does not mean you should not follow what's in fashion. There's always a way you can twist what's trendy to suit your style. Dress it up or dress it down. You have a choice. Choose and be confident about your choice.

If you have confidence, it will show and it will make you attractive.

Collect, then select. Your grandma, your mom, and your dad told you this. Don't show you are to date. Don't come cheap.

The new rule is this-know as many guys as you can. Go out with different kinds of guys, even those who are not your type. Who knows, the one you think is such a lemon might turn out to be a diamond!

It's not about the guy. It's about you. You can end up with Mr. Right if you are Ms. Right in the first place. Oftentimes, you focus on the traits of men, forgetting about yours. Do you know good manners and right conduct? Do you mind your manners? Are you courteous? Are you kind? Do you swear a lot? Do you argue a lot? How's your sense of humor? Are you fun to be with? Yes it's all about you - whether you are a great date ora dull one. The new rule is realy an old, time-tested rule - BE LOVABLE!

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