Tuesday Quotable Toots (3)

I have found the paradox that If I love until it hurts,

then there is no hurt but more love.

-Mother Teresa

Life's lessons

• Learn that you cannot make anyone love you but you can make yourself be loved and lovable.
• It's not good to compare yourself to others.
• Learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness.
• Two people can look at the same thing but see it differently.
• A rich person is not the one who has the most, but simply the one who need the least.
  

Let guys into your world and don't scare them away

There are girls/ women I know who are pretty, talented and yet they seem to scare men away from them. Some of them we labeled NBSB (No Boyfriend Since Birth). Deep inside, they long for somebody to be with, to get to know with someone. How to to let guys into your world and not scare them away? Here we go...

Being an untamed shrew. Any guy or person for that matter would probably not want to go where he is not wanted. The same thing goes for potential love interests. People are curious about the girl who can cut off the knees but once the thrill of the chase is gone, the interest and whatever feelings may be present soon follow suit. At the same time, an icy misdemeanor and a sharp tongue will make a lot of would-be suitors look somewhere else easily.

So, what's the right attitude to take? It really depends on one's personality. The best thing to do is to always remember that you are a lady, and a lady must carry herself with dignity and gentility. An openness to friendship without overly eager can also go a long way in showing that a girl is worthy to be met and pursued.

Asking too many questions. Of course, wanting to know someone is a good thing and asking so many questions is the easiest way to do it. But when it comes to matters of the heart, can there be too much of a good thing? In a word yes, Many guys are by nature, not very talkative and at the same time, there are matters they prefer not to discuss too much. So when girls ask too many questions about things they deem personal, it makes them uncomfortable. Uncomfortable enough, to avoid girls who possess this habit.

So what are you gonna do? There's no easy way to get rid of this tendency but the best thing to do is to be as sensitive as possible. Guys are usually quote transparent when it comes to showing discomfort. So when getting to know a guy, observe how he reacts to different topics. If he starts squirming in his seat, redirect the conversation. He will be thankful for it, and you will be setting more the stage for him to be more open with you in the future.

Acting like a damsel in too much distress. Admittedly, guys like a girl who can make them feel needed. But being helpless to extremes may be an automatic red flag, especially considering how much females value gender equality these days. Relying on guys for everything, from driving to to walking to the dog can make guys feel like they are simply being used and seeing a girl act like this can make guys think twice about even just coming up to say hi.

So, what shall you do? There's really no need to act like a full-on princess just to make men feel needed. Learning to do things on your own gives you a better appreciation of the things around you including the help you received. It also makes you down-to-earth, and thus, approachable. That's something the guy will definitely take notice of.

Priceless gifts for Christmas

Whew! So fast. Few days from now and it's gonna be Christmas. A lot of gift giving, parties, and shopping and eating. But there are gifts worth giving this Christmas which makes us happier than anything you can find under the Christmas tree!

Gift of Gratitude- Say thanks to the people you love. Your husband, wife, daughter, son, friends, office mates. Say thanks not only to the people who give you gifts but to everyone who makes your Christmas merrier-from the cashier to your house helper. And above all say thanks to the one who is the reason why we celebrate Christmas - Jesus Christ.

Gift of trust - Share your innermost feelings to the person you trust - your spouse, parents, friends. It shows that you trust them and it also builds relationships.

Gift of listening - Give the carolers a chance to finish at least one song before handling them the change and closing the gate . Some might be in it for the money but that doesn't mean they don't love your attention.

Gift of words - Take a break from gossiping or badmouthing anyone. Use your word power instead to encourage someone. Your words should heal, not hurt.

Gift of space - Being in one house 24/7 during Christmas vacation may make you and your family get on each others nerves by New Year's. Respect the times when someone in your family just wants to do their own thing and have "me time" of your own.

Gift of time - Everyone has the same 24 hours a day so make the best of yours. Devote some precious time to helping others or caring for others. If time is gold, that should always be well spent.

Gift of contentment - Learning to love what you have instead of pitying yourself for what you don't have makes you more willing to give more generously. Count your blessings and find ways to share them.


Gift of family connection - You see your cousins every year but do you really know them? Talk to them especially in this times of family reunions and gatherings and find out what the biggest happening in their life for the past year.

Gift of forgiveness - How can you spread joy and goodwill to all if you have got grudges? Sincerely greet "Merry Christmas" to those people you don't talk to for several years and let the past be forgotten and forgiven.

Gift of letting go - Let go of past hurts and pains and move on with your life. Accept that change is the only constant thing in one's journey in life.

Beat up break- up blues

So, you just experienced a breakup. Sigh...and you honestly thought that it would never end. While you're here sulking yourself, there goes you ex flaunting around wit his/her new replacement. Arrggh! The mere thought of it makes you sad all the more. How could he/she do such a thing? Before you start taking that bottle of muriatic acid and down its content like a beer, here is an easy to follow process on how to beat that "noboyfriend/girlfriend" blues.

Cry yourself out. It oftentimes much better to let out all those feelings which you have bottled up inside through tears. haven't you noticed that after a bout with the sobs, you generally feel better than you did before you cried? Try it, it's a great therapy.

Listen to loud music. Mushy songs are no-nos at this time. loud music - be it hard metal, rock n roll, rap or disco music helps to take out those pent - up feelings in you, especially when you sing or shout along with it.

Exercise. Exerting effort on your body physically may lessen the emotional stress you are currently experiencing. You will be too tired to think of the good old days. Not only will you be able to sleep better at night, you will also be keeping fit. No food binges please...

Keep busy. Bury yourself in work.Perhaps go on overtime. If you are in school, take extra hours in the library. That would leave you with less idle time which permits you to think back about your recent misfortune. The less idle time, the better.

Take out your ex's picture. Then stick it unto your dartboard. No dartboard? Use a cork board instead. Or a bunch of needles and pins will do.

Make a list of your ex's shortcomings. couple it with your own list of what you did to continue your erstwhile relationship despite his inadequacies. Then compare notes. Intentionally make your list longer than his/hers. That sort of getting at him/her already.

Put all the items that remind you of your ex together in a box and keep it in a place where you will not be tempted to open it. Everything must be put away - pressed roses, love letters, pictures...everything. If you keep on wallowing in your past with your former flame, the letting go process will be delayed.

Have a makeover. For the heartbroken females, paint your fingernails fuchsia, change your hairstyle, change your disposition for the better. Make your self more beautiful than ever before. As for those forlorn guys, a great new change in wardrobe will do. Make heads turn.

Go out on a date. Meet people of the opposite sex. Mingle. In a short span of time, you will be back in the social circle again. Who knows? you might just end up getting to know someone new. But warning - no comparing of the former and the current date.

Party.have as much fun as a single person. If ever you encounter your ex in one of those social gatherings, show him/her how much you are enjoying yourself even without him/her in the picture. Greet your ex the way you greet a long lost friend.

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