Single and blessed

A lot of single people are happy and contented with their lives, being single. But there are those who also long to be with someone for the rest of their lives. Single people should pray constantly to God to let them find the one He prepared for them. And while waiting, preserve your purity and human dignity. Remember, you wouldn't want to be used by someone who will be married to someone else in the future, or you wouldn't want your future spouse to be someone who has already been used by others.

Begin possible relationships with the right intentions. It is not to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend for people are not possessions. It is not to have an experience because people are not events. It is not to have someone to enjoy with because people are not toys. It is not to taste it or try it out, because people are not chewing gums you spit out later when it losses its sweetness or a shoes you can throw out when they become worn out.

It is to have a committed, loving relationship. It is to be married t each other someday. If that has no possibility or not even desired at the very beginning, then there should be nothing to begin at all.

In love and committed

Funny how when we are so in love and we feel we have found the right person, we vow to be the best for him and promise to steer clear of our vices, bad habits and unpleasant behaviors. And funny too, how when the relationship has gone sour, we suddenly forget those vows and go back to our former way of life.Worse, we leave him behind. It is in this trying times that our faith, love and commitment are being tested. These trying times that determine whether commitment was just something spoken from the lips or something that's within the heart.

Many times when my relationship with the man I love is put to test, I ask myself - how far have I promised to commit? But I guess the question should have been - how far I am willing to commit?

Love or Infatuation?

What is love? I've read one definition of love which says " Love is a heterogeneous conglomeration of absurdity calculated to bamboozle the anatomy of the individual who becomes intoxicated with its abominable and irresistible power". Another one says " Love is a feeling you feel when you feel that you're going to get a feeling that you never felt before". Whatever that is, it surely isn't love!

The shortest and most most profound love statement is "God is love". And others would say that it's not that kind of love that they are talking about. Love that is romantic - the hugging and kissing love. But that is the kind of love we are talking about - all true love ->parent for child, husband for wife, girlfriend for boyfriend - all true love comes from God. But for every good thing that God created, the devil has improvised a counterfeit. Love's counterfeit is infatuation. The big question is: how can one discern the counterfeit from the genuine? Here are some differences:

• Infatuation is ruled by feelings, but love's feelings are ruled by principles. In the field of infatuation, the feelings are in charge. But the problem is that our feelings are fickle. They change easily. Today I feel great so I kiss her. Tomorrow I feel terrible so I kick her. That's not love! True love has feelings, tender feelings which are put in the human heart by a caring God. But love is not composed of feelings only. It is feelings plus principle. Moreover, love is not controlled by feelings. It does not do anything and everything it feels. Rather, in true love, the feelings are under the control of principle.

• Infatuation is blind, but love sees and examines. Like Cupid, infatuation is blind. When a girl recognizes that her boyfriend is hooked on drugs but still proceeds with plans for marriage, Cupid has wounded her. When a boy observes his girlfriend flirting continuously with other men, but still goes ahead with the love affair, infatuation has blinded him! True love uses its eyes to see and examine weaknesses of the prospective partner. It is not afraid to ask hard questions nor do difficult examinations.

• Infatuation is in a hurry, but love takes time. Everything of permanent value in life takes time. We can build a shack overnight, but if we are building a house that will stand the fury of a typhoon or hurricane, that takes time. We can put up an artificial Christmas tree overnight, but to grow a real tree takes time. It has to be planted, watered and nourished for weeks, months or years. Love is a plant - a tender, precious plant. Infatuation is ever in a hurry. See her today, court her tomorrow and marry her the day after!Growing a relationship takes time and God expects couples in love to "grow up".

• Infatuation is obsessed with externals, but love is concerned with internals. Puppy love is obsessed with the figure, is a slave to fashion, and is intoxicated with sex appeal. True love admires the figure, appreciates appropriate fashion, and anticipates sexual intimacy within the bond of marriage. But these are not the greatest concerns of true love. True love is more concerned with the personality, the kind of person the partner really is. Love examines the habits, the inner virtues or vices. True love pays attention to the character, the inner self.

• Infatuation is childish but love is mature. Childish and selfish love has little or no concern for the other. It is self-centered. But true love is concerned with the welfare of one's partner. Infatuation cries for gratification today regardless of the consequences later. But true love refrains from enjoying today that which it will regret tomorrow. Infatuation thinks and behaves like a child, but true love is mature - it has put childish ways behind.
  

• Infatuation is a human ditch, but love is a divine ladder. One goes down the other goes up. infatuation is a ditch into which blindfolded people fall, but love is a ladder onto which wide-eyed people climb. so, while infatuation is a human pit, true love is a divine ladder. And every person has the freedom to choose between the tragedy of one and the triumph of the other.
  

Why chocolates Make You Love?

Although chocolates contain saturated fats which could pose health risks, researchers have discovered several health benefits of chocolates:

1. Chocolates contain caffeine, an ingredient found in a cup of coffee and ola drinks that gives an invigorating feeling. It’s a proven stimuilant that energizes your brain.

2. Chocolates have phynelethylamine. This is the chemical released in the blood to those who are passionately in love.

3. Chocolates release endorphins, the chemical that gives chocolate lovers the inner glow and glorious high feelings.

4. Chocolates contain antioxidants that prevent cancer.

5. Chocolates have anandamide which promotes well-being.

6. Chocolates scontain tryptophan, an essential amino acid which modulates a person’s mood.

7. Lastly, chocolates contain the “love chemical” phynelethylamine. This trace chemical targets the pleasure centers of the brain. More phynelethylamineare produced during orgasm. In addition, phynelethylamine mediates feelings of attraction, euphoria, and excitement.

So if you want your lover to be more intense, romantic and committed towards you, don’t consult witches or magicians, simply give your lover a chocolate bar to nibble and you will be glad you did!

Just the two of you

• Go stargazing
• Watch a romantic DVD while munching on home-made canapes and wine
• Create a backyard picnic for two
• Play a massage game in the comfort of your own candle-lit bedroom
• Cook your meal together. Feed him bits of food (and lovey-dovey-mushy messages while you're at it. You may end up forgetting about cooking. Just don't forget to turn off the oven, lol. )
• Play a love hunt.
• Surprise him with his favorite meal
• Write him a love poem and have it framed
• Read him some love poems (you may even end up laughing your socks off)
  

Signs that he is in love with you

If the man you are seeing acts in any of the ways mentioned here, it's time to start savoring the thrill of your romance moving to the next level.

• He starts thinking about the future and you are in it. He does not only wants to see you on weekends but his plans for summer or Christmas holidays also have you in it.

• Other priorities take a back seat. He used to religiously join his basketball team for practices but lately, he doesn't mind missing a practice if it means seeing you for a whimsically planned dinner date.

• He doesn't mind compromising. There was a time when it was his way or the highway, but with you it's different. Not that you ask him to, but he doesn't mind occasionally missing a night out with his buddies.

• He loves spending time with you. This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. He looks forward to seeing you, and doesn't care much about what the two of you will be doing.

• You have great chemistry. We can't be in love with someone without chemistry.

• He finds your quirks charming. You do and say things that mke you different, and he likes it. He can't quite put his finger on why, but it doesn't even matter. He likes you just the way you are.

• He really cares about you. he wants to know all about you. Who you are, what you think, what makes you laugh.